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Briefing What you’re about to read isn’t nice. It isn’t politically correct. And it should be used with caution. The tactics, techniques, and mind-control strategies detailed in this manifesto have one purpose and one purpose only: so you get that “one girl.” It’s not a guide on approaching. It’s not a guide on dating multiple women or how to get a supermodel girlfriend. This is solely for a girl you already know, and whom you desire. Maybe you want to make her your girlfriend. Maybe you want to fuck her. Maybe you just want to see what she looks like naked. Whatever your reason, that’s your business. Our business is to make sure you succeed.

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Who To Use This On As we already mention, your aim should be a girl you already know. Who does that include? • • • • • •

A girl who put you in the “friend zone” A girl in your social circle you are acquainted with A girl you went on a date with, but she lost interest afterwards A girl in your class or workplace A girl who went to high school or college with, and remain in contact (even through social media) A girl you think you’ve messed it up with in the past

Now, obviously this manifesto will work better on certain situations than others. If you’re using this on a girl who vaguely knows you,

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then your chances are better than if you’re using it on a girl you’ve gone on a date with, and already messed things up. There’s only ONE type of girl this will NOT work on… An ex-girlfriend! If you’ve already had sex with her, then this manifesto will be ineffective. The reason why is too complicated to explain, but it involves the way the female psyche works. So if you’re trying to win your ex back, I’d look elsewhere for answers. For everyone else, read on…

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The 5 WhiteHot Attraction Phases Undoing an impression a woman has of you is absolutely possible, but it happens in very specific way. Just as most women make a decision to sleep with a guy based on certain emotions, or to meet a guy for a date based on certain emotions (which is the basis of the Key-Lock Sequence from Magnetic Messaging), girls can change their perception of you based on a certain progression of emotions. If you think about it, you know this is true. Think about your own perception of things. Maybe you once hated coffee, or beer, or seafood, but now you love. Our perceptions of things can do a complete 180 if we’re exposed to certain experiences around those

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emotions. But the “experiences” we experience are particular. For the purpose of this manifesto, we’ve color-labeled them to help you remember the progression (and corresponding color). Here they are (in order): Black Phase—You must go totally “off her radar” for a period of time to “reset” her emotions Blue Phase—You must confuse her perception of you through “pattern interrupts” Orange Phase—You must bait her interest and attention by using tension and “unresolved sentiment” Green Phase—You must tantalize her with directed emotional detachment Red Phase—You must get her alone,

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one-on-one, and get physical with her (this is the climax of the progression) White Phase—You must “debrief” her to begin a fresh relationship (regardless of what you want that relationship to be) If you’re confused reading over this progression, don’t worry. We’ll definite each stage, and exactly what to do, in this manifesto. For now, just get acquainted with the gist of what you’re doing. These “color phases” allow you to slowly amplify the chemistry between you and a woman, effectively re-opening the door for you to make your move. It’s fast. It’s swift. It’s strategic. Much like a NAVY SEALs operation, you

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know exactly what your objectives are for each phase. It’s up to you, however, to carry them out. And, like a SEALs mission, we’re only giving you the objective. We’re not giving you magic potions. If you think you can just recite some “magic words” or punch-in some copy-and-paste messages like you’re unlocking a passcode, then you’re mistaken. While you will be receiving specific instructions, with specific directions (including how long each phase should take), don’t think of this as a “magic solution.” Instead, accept your mission like a NAVY SEAL! Resolve yourself right now to get in there and carry out the best damn mission you can! If you’re excited and motivated to get that “one girl,” then you should be willing to put in the sweat and patience to accomplish your mission! So let’s get started!

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1. Phase: Black

Duration: Exactly 21 Days Objective: “Reset” her emotions by going off her radar Pitfalls to Avoid: “Over-gaming” Black Phase Step 1: Back Off (Duration: 7 Days)

Guys make the mistake of “over-gaming” all the time. The definition of “over-gaming” is the idea that you need to do “more” to attract or seduce a woman. This is especially deadly in a situation where you’re already coming from behind with a girl. The kneejerk reaction of most guys when they “mess up” with a girl is to do more. They want the right thing to say or do to get back in a girl’s good graces. It’s like a kid with a scab on his arm that can’t stop picking at it. Even though he knows he shouldn’t, somehow he finds himself picking at the scab again and again, which just makes it worse. Likewise, most guys “know” they should just

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remove themselves from the situation. Yet their desperation, insecurity, and pride in always being “right” prevail, and it leads to guys to over-gaming women. So step one in any situation where you’re trying to win a girl back over is this: BACK OFF. Remove yourself from any contact with her for 7 straight days. Not only should you not directly contact her, you shouldn’t even THINK of her. Don’t check her Facebook. Don’t reread her texts to you. Don’t try to put yourself in situations where you’ll see her. This may should unnecessary, yet I assure you: it’s absolutely crucial. To remedy a situation with a girl, you need to work from the inside out—meaning you need to master your OWN emotions before you master hers. Step one of the black phase requires you remove ANY inkling of contact with the woman you’re trying to seduce. No excuses. Embark on a new hobby or a distraction if you need to, but don’t let her cross your mind

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during these 7 days. Not even once.

Black Phase Step 2: Let Go (Duration: 7 Days)

As strange as it sounds, the “Black Phase” is very difficult for many guys even though it requires they do NOTHING. The reason the “silent treatment” is so difficult is because most men are somewhat narcissistic. In other words, we believe that we’re the center of the universe and so we always need to be “in control.” And don’t think this sort of “narcissism” is limited to arrogant guys only. It’s also symptomatic of insecure guys, as well. Only a man who’s insecure would feel that he must control every reaction and every situation. The idea of always needing to “game” women is a huge red flag that you’re a narcissist (and it’s hurting your chances with women). Much of “traditional” pickup theory espouses this “always be in control” mentality…and it’s not going to help you get that “one girl.” Though, to alleviate yourself of the fatal flaw

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of “over-gaming,” you must learn to let go. By let go, I mean you need to remove yourself from wanting to control the outcome, wanting to control the situation, wanting to control anything. You need to adopt this personal mantra: If I make the right moves, I trust that the chips will fall as they may. With women (and with life) that’s really all you can hope for: a fair shot. If you make the right moves, you can’t expect always to win. You can only expect to get a fair shot. Over the next 7 days, continue to avoid contact, but also try and detach yourself from the outcome. Remind yourself of all the reasons it may not work with her. Remind yourself that you don’t need anything from her. In fact, try to convince yourself why you’d almost be BETTER OFF not “getting” her. Now, you don’t have to give up on your girl by any means; however, you should give up on the idea of thinking you “need” her. Once

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you “let go,” you’re free. And it’s only when you’re “free” that you’ll have your best shot of seducing her.

Black Phase Step 3: Hit Reset (Duration: 7 Days)

Once you pull yourself “out of the game” for a breather, you hopefully will gain some altitude. You’ll see things from a higher, more detached vantage point. Hopefully you’ll pinpoint exactly what you did wrong, and what you could have done right. As you’re assessing your situation, if you’re remaining “silent” (and not over-gaming), a woman’s emotions are “resetting.” In other words, you’re “growing” a second chance. If you’ve followed the first two steps, it should be about 2 weeks since you last had ANY contact with her. You should feel assured that by giving her space that her negative emotions have died down, and you’ll get (another) fair shot at her. But remember: hitting that reset button is all about letting go of trying to control the

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outcome and backing off. During this phase you may feel tempted to contact her or “check up” on her. Don’t. Don’t try to mitigate your past failures. And especially don’t try and “game” her. Simply sit back, let this final week pass, and get an objective view on things. Again, this is easier said than done. However, if you truly want another shot at the “girl who got away,” then you’ve got to learn the virtue of silence. You may convince yourself that you’ve “got to do something,” but that’s just your pride (and narcissism) talking. After 21 days exactly of “black” silence, you’re free to move into the next phase: The Blue Phase. This means cut off all phone calls, text messages, and visits. Do this WITHOUT making her feel like you’re mad at her. The whole goal is to make her wonder what

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is going on in your life that you don’t have time for her. When she contacts you… don’t answer the call, text, or email right away. Wait a day or two before getting back to her. When you do talk to her be pleasant but VAGUE. You should spend at least one month apart. The better friends you are with this girl, the longer the time apart should be. What you are doing here is interrupting her pattern and confusing her. The confusion will cause her to spend more time thinking about you. Her simply missing you will NOT be enough to stir up immense attraction for you. Although you will be vague, you should always be implying that really great things are going on in your life.

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This is a fine line that you have to be careful to walk. She can NEVER feel like you’re bragging, trying to make her jealous, or lying. That will backfire the plan. Your whole attitude should be that really great things are going on in your life… but you’re HOLDING BACK telling because you don’t want her to feel bad. Vagueness is the key to this part. (Have you noticed how I keep stressing VAGUE. Its what causes the confusion. The confusion get her thinking about you)

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2. Phase: Blue Duration: 5-7 Days Objective: “Confuse” her perception of you through pattern interrupts Pitfalls to Avoid: Falling back into your old habits/patterns See awhile back I realized that there is a missing step that most teacher’s leave out. And if you miss this step then the material isn’t even half as effective. Here’s the problem: When you try to change a females opinion of you she still sees you as the “old” you. Big problem, especially if you weren’t too cool at first. Or if you were Mr. Nice Guy. Or a real push over. Or a shy, quiet guy she hardly noticed. All the material in the world won’t work unless you can “change” her opinion of you.

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Most guys don’t know how to do this.... So quick lesson then... I discovered this “FIX” about 12 years ago while watching Monday Nitro (pro wrestling). There was a “good guy” Scot Steiner. And he had just turned “bad.” But the crowd wasn’t buying it. They had cheered him so long it was hard for them boo him. Hard for the crowd to see him as anything other than the likable guy he had always been. But then he disappeared for a bit. He came back a month later with a completely different look. Not only that but he had different catch phrases. Everything about him was just different.

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No. I’m not telling to start dressing like the Big Bad Booty Daddy. I’m not even telling you that you need an image overhaul. What you need is something called a “Pattern Interrupt.” We as humans engage in certain “thought patterns.” They are unconscious. It’s almost like a continual program that is running inside our mind. Certain expectations. And that woman has a certain pattern of thoughts when it comes to YOU. And certain expectations. Here is the key. If you want to change her opinion of you, and ultimately get her to become attracted to you... you need to use a PATTERN

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INTERRUPT. If you don’t interrupt her thought pattern, then she is going to keep engaging in thoughts that lead her think of you as a “friend.” Going back to Scott Steiner the wrestler. It wasn’t enough for him to just start cheating. And beating up the “good guys” for the crowd to boo him. He had to disappear. Interrupt the pattern. And come back with a different image. What is the secret to a pattern interrupt? Confusion and THEN the new information. Yes. Good old confusion. Here’s how confusion comes into the picture. Loss of certainty means open-mindedness to what is. A pattern interrupt confuses her condi-

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tioned mind and in so gets her old though habits out of the way long enough for you to sneak your “new” opinion in there. I know I’m getting pretty heavy on you. A lot of technical stuff. It’s worth really understanding this though. It’s powerful stuff. That old saying, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression” is not applicable to attraction. That can hurt or help you. For example, there’s probably a sign where you hit it off with a girl, but later “messed it up.” In that instance, the mutable aspect of attraction worked against you. It can, however, work FOR you. Whatever a woman’s perception of you is subject to change. That’s because attraction is based purely on EMOTIONS. Human emotion is like the tide of the ocean: it’s always changing. A woman’s emotions are changing, day-today, hour-to-hour. She may HATE you one moment, only to love you the next. So, rath-

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er than fight the wave, ride it. Use her emotions to your extreme advantage. The best way to “use her emotions” is using it to change her perception of you. Likely her perception of you isn’t what you want it to be. That’s no problem! By using a “pattern interrupt” you can “disrupt” and “fragment” the way she perceives. See, women often perceive a man based on a few short encounters. You may be the most suave, charming man alive, but if you slipped up once or twice in front of her on a first date, she may think you’re a clumsy dunce! It’s not fair, but it’s reality. Likely the perception she currently has of you is less-than-flattering. Maybe she thinks you’re too nice. Maybe she thinks you’re cowardly. Maybe she thinks you’re creepy or an asshole. It doesn’t matter. What DOES matter is that you have SOME idea of what that perception is. You can determine this by using the “per-

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spective” you got over the past 21 days of silence. Now that you’ve had a full 21 days away from the situation, it’s time to go back over the text conversations, Facebook messages, and memories you have of her. What happened? (Be as honest with yourself as you can.) Were you too boring? Too generous? Too aggressive? Too quiet? Too passive? Did you “try” too hard (over-gamed)? Try to bring yourself back to the exact moment things began going wrong. What did you do RIGHT BEFORE that moment? Hopefully you have a rough idea of what went wrong. As long as you’re in “the ballpark,” then you’re golden. Because all you need to do now is: “Break” her perception of you by doing something that’s the exact opposite of her “bad” perception of you. Now, you’ll hear some examples of how to do this in a moment, but first a word of warning: DO NOT MAKE THIS OBVIOUS. The best

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pattern interrupts are incredibly subtle! So your first communication with her shouldn’t involve you going right for the jugular and trying to execute your pattern interrupt. Be cool about it; be patient. So, as an example, let’s say you were too nice, and now there’s no sexual tension. A great way to “break” that pattern is by seeing her in person, talking to her, and dropping in some “nasty” language. For example, you might comment on some guy who looks like a douche, a girl who looks like cunt, or something along those lines. You may feel uncomfortable executing a pattern interrupt, but it’s crucial you do it. A great line from the movie The 40-Year Old Virgin rings true here: “Dawg, what you’ve doing just isn’t working. It’s time for a change!” Understand: the pattern you’ve fell into with this girl JUST ISN’T WORKING. You need to break it. Therefore, over the next 7 days, you NEED to do something RADICALLY different from how she perceives

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you. This radical shift doesn’t need to be super obvious, and you don’t need to be excessive about it, but she needs to see there’s an “edge” to your personality that she wasn’t aware of before. Now you need to amplify the jealousy and the confusion. A great way to do this is to call her and ask her to hang out. Assuming enough time has gone by she will be relieved that you finally called… and her jealousy and confusion will dwindle. Just when she thinks things are going back to the status quo… CANCEL THE PLANS with her. When you cancel don’t schedule a new date. Once again, be vague. In the meantime, another great way to create jealousy is to take advantage of Facebook.

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Hopefully you have some female friends on Facebook you can interact with (she’ll notice) It’s also important to change up your profile a bit. Add some cool new pics (preferably of you and hot girls). But just as important…. The entire time away from her you need to be working on yourself. If there are areas of yourself that need improvement, now is the time to serious about change. If you’re over weight, do everything possible to get in shape… During your time away from her you need to be working on your social skills. Luckily, you have an entire Mastermind Kit to help you with that

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You should not spend all your time away from her thinking about her or planning your next move on her. You need to be filling your days with exciting and challenging shit. Stuff that is personally rewarding. You should be doing everything you can to take her off your mind. You should be out flirting and attracting as many girls as you can. You should be hitting on other girls with reckless abandon. This serves many purposes. Above everything else, it gives you a chance to see if you really want her as a girlfriend.

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3. Phase: Orange Duration: 8-10 Days Objective: Bait her with open loops that create tension and “unresolved sentiment” Pitfalls to Avoid: Deflating the tension you created with the pattern interrupt If you correctly executed the Blue Phase, then there should be a substantial amount of tension between you and the woman you’re pursuing. If you really did a good job of interrupting her perception of you, then you may find she’s already asking you questions. In fact, that’s the signpost you’re looking for during the orange phase: she’s asking you questions. Whenever a woman is asking you questions, she has an “unsolved sentiment.” That’s a fancy way of saying she’s got an itch that she needs to scratch. Think about it: when do you ask questions? It’s when you want an answer. However,

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once you get your answer, you feel satisfied. You do NOT want a woman to feel “satisfied” during the orange phase…so don’t give her any real answers! In fact, once a woman asks you a question, you want to stoke the flames even more! You can “stoke the flames” by using open loops and tension. For example, you might text a girl something like, “Just saw Night at the Roxberry on TV…reminded me of you.” Why does it remind you of her? Don’t tell! Likely a woman will respond to that text, “Why did it remind you of me?” DO NOT ANSWER THE QUESTION! Remember: the point of the orange phase is to get her CURIOUS and INVESTED. If you deflate the tension and “confusion” you’re creating in this phase, it ruins all the work you’ve already done! Now, use some common sense when applying techniques like the open loop and tension. Don’t become a one-trick pony, constantly trying to get a woman to ask you questions.

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Instead, sprinkle these techniques into your conversations and text interactions with a woman over the next 8-10 days. If you can get a woman to ask you 3-5 questions over these next few days, you’re in great shape! Moreover, if a woman REPEATEDLY asks you the same question (e.g., “Seriously, I want to know why that movie Night at the Roxberry made you think of me!”), then you’ve really nailed this phase! You want there to be some attractive tension during these 8-10 days. And you absolutely DO NOT want to break that tension!

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4. Phase: Green Duration: 5-7 Days Objective: Fan the flames of her desire even more through strategic detachment Pitfalls to Avoid: Taking it too far and becoming too detached By now, the seeds of attraction have been sown. If asked, your girl probably doesn’t even know she’s attracted to you yet…but she is! However, you need to bring that attraction to a flashpoint, which means you need to make her realize what you now mean to her. To do that, you need to detach yourself emotionally from her. Now, this doesn’t mean you should ignore her…in fact, that would hurt your chances. You simply need to interact with her in an emotionally detached way. To conceptualize how to act, imagine how you’d talk to a friend or someone like your

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accountant (presupposing your accountant isn’t smoking hot!). While you wouldn’t be rude, you also wouldn’t try too hard. You wouldn’t worry if they thought your jokes were funny and you wouldn’t go out of your way to make them feel comfortable or happy. You’d simply have a nice, polite conversation with them, and then you’d go about your day. The same holds true during the green phase: don’t put any real effort in here. That probably means you’ll have shorter conversations, send less text messages, and make less of an effort to see your girl. While you should not go completely silent, you should absolutely cut your efforts back by 60-75%. The Green Phase is also a great opportunity to sprinkle in a little jealousy. Be careful with this, because too much jealousy can ruin everything, though your girl should at least see you talking to other girls during this phase. You don’t even necessarily need

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to flirt with these girls (though you can!), but it should look like you’re “keeping your options open.” To make sure you succeed during this phase, avoid using her friends to make her jealous. What’s really important here is that she doesn’t fully know what your relationships are with these girls. If you use her friends to get her jealous, she can simply ask them what you wanted. If, however, she sees you talking with girls she doesn’t know, she won’t be able to figure out your relationship with them! That’s the way you want it! Now, don’t let the Green Phase go on for too long. Absolutely cut this phase off after a few days, or after she sees you with a few girls. If you let this phase go on too long, or she sees you with more than 3-5 girls, then she might just write you off. Remember: a master chef only sprinkles in ingredients…he doesn’t pour them in (that

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would ruin the dish!). Likewise, you only need a sprinkle of these techniques in order to get them to work. If you add too much, you risk ruining everything.

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5. Phase: Red Duration: 1 encounter Objective: Get her in a one-on-one setting and “pull the trigger” Pitfalls to Avoid: Getting cold feet at the last second and not going for it Congratulations! If you’ve made it this far in the emotional progression, then your girl is just itching for you to make a move. You have a rare window of opportunity that you absolutely MUST capitalize on before you miss your chance. Again, this can’t be stressed enough: you have ONE shot at this. For the last month and a half, you’ve slowly built up to this moment, and now you need to “cash in your chips.” Waiting, hesitating, or failing to execute a move here will negate all the great work you’ve done up until this point. Now, be warned: she may not give you a clear-cut signal that she wants you to make a move. There’s no “universal” sign that she

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wants you to escalate physically. As a general rule, if she agrees to hang out with you in a one-on-one setting, feel confident that she wants you to make a move. For you, that’s the only “signal” you need. Now, you may not even get an obvious “oneon-one” encounter with her. You may decide to execute your move when you see at a party or in some other social situation. While it’s not ideal, it will do. Remember: the MOST IMPORTANT aspect of this red phase is ACTION…which means MAKING THE MOVE! Don’t wait until the perfect moment arrives…because you may be waiting forever. Moreover, a woman’s emotions change very quickly. If you’ve led a woman through the other 4 phases, then she’s READY for you to make a move. Though, her “readiness” can quickly cool off in a matter of days. SO MAKE YOUR MOVE! The best example of making a move is going for a kiss. It’s not too aggressive, but it’s also

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not too passive. A kiss is the perfect balance between showing sexual interest but also not going too far and being creepy. In the appendix, we’ve included a primer on kissing that will help you structure an opportunity for the kiss. One final reminder about the Red Phase is that it must happen in one encounter. Don’t pussyfoot around and drag this phase out for multiple days. You have one window of opportunity to strike, and you don’t want to let it simmer because you were too much of a coward to make a move. Make your move confidently, and trust that you have a good shot of landing it. Even if you fail, at least you can walk away feeling like a brave man, and rest assured that you did everything you could to get her. And, if you succeed, to the victor goes the spoils! You’ve just landed your girl through careful planning and execution! Most of all, you landed her because you had the BALLS to go for it.

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Remember: fortune favors the bold!

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6. Phase: White Duration: The duration of your relationship Objective: Set yourself up for an enjoyable relationship Pitfalls to Avoid: Continuing the play “the game” with a girl you know is attractive Once you succeed in making your move, you don’t need to concern yourself too much with “strategy” and “techniques.” If your girl accepts your move (e.g., she kisses you), then she’s made a very conscious choice that you’re a guy she wants to be with…so don’t cause her change her mind back! In the appendix, there’s a section on “the over-gaming trap,” which we reprinted (with permission) from The Advanced Dating Strategies. Understand that the completion of the “red phase” signals a woman’s “waypoint.” You’re now a guy she finds attractive!

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As such, enjoy the girl and not the game. Get to know her and treat her with respect. Don’t get too caught up in trying to manipulate her. You may have needed some “game” to overcome her resistance initially, but now you’re off and running. Refer to Magnetic Messaging for some examples of attractive communication (in “Section 3” of the book) and sprinkle in some of those concepts to keep everything nice and passionate. Most important: enjoy! You earned it!

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Appendix 1. How To Kiss A Girl: A Tutorial In most of my products and articles, I rarely go into much depth about how to kiss a girl. In my opinion, sexual escalation (like kissing) is more of an outgrowth of sexual tension. In The 4 Elements of Game I define kissing as a “release” behavior—something that releases the tension created when you’re interacting with a woman in an attractive, masculine way. However, I know some guys out there like a more thorough and detailed explanation of how to kiss a girl. (This morning my inbox was flooded with the subject line “How To Kiss A Girl?”). Thus, I want to take this opportunity to further explain what I know about how to kiss a girl.

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How To Kiss A Girl: It’s All About The PreGame Most guys ask a question about kissing a girl, and think I’m going to give them an answer that they can apply a few seconds before the kiss and have it magically go down. In reality, a good kiss is 95% preparation and only 5% execution (totally made up statistics). In other words, the determining factor of whether or not a girl deems your kiss “hot or not” is established in the moments leading up to the kiss. The shortest timeline for this “pre-game” would be about 2-5 minutes. However, in a typical date situation, the moments leading up to a kiss can span as long as 45 minutes to an hour. Just a quick word to all the guys who enjoy going for fast make-outs (otherwise known as “flash game”): While it may make you feel cool to be able to get instant kisses from girls you just met (and I’m certainly not claiming I’m somehow above this), kissing a girl

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too soon or rushing the build-up to a kiss is not a good long-term strategy for building a solid connection with a woman. While kissing babes is awesome, I personally enjoy the build-up to a kiss better, anyway. And certainly women would concur. No woman wants to feel like she’s a tongue receptacle for some aggressive horn-ball; instead, she wants a guy who understands how to create, maintain, and amplify sexual tension. Thus, the bulk of this tutorial will center on the crucial aspects of the pre-game. Beginning with the most important aspect of the kiss: isolated discretion. How To Kiss A Girl Step 1: Isolated Discretion I know it sounds obvious that you need to be “isolated” with a girl to kiss her, but it’s still important to point out. A memorable kiss is a moment shared between you and a girl, and that’s it. Unless you’re “kissing the

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bride” at your wedding, you should really remain cognizant of the situation you and a girl are in. Case-in-point: the other weekend I was chatting with a girl who I felt great chemistry with. We’d met because my friend began talking to her friend, and we naturally just gravitated to each other. Now, even though I wanted to kiss her (and the feeling seemed to be mutual), I restrained myself for an important reason: no discretion. Personally, I don’t want a girl to think I’m some sex-starved horn-ball who will jump at any opportunity to sexually escalate (and I’m sure you agree). While I emphasize the importance of sexual escalation in all my articles and advice, the importance of being a sexually satisfied guy who’s in control of his emotions is MORE important than simply having the guts to go for a kiss. So, if you’re planning a great kiss, the first step is to wait until you’re in a situation that is somewhat discrete. I’m not saying that you

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necessarily need to be one-on-one, beyond closed doors before going for the kiss. However, do respect her reputation and comfort levels. Most girls don’t feel comfortable engaging in public displays of affection (PDA), so don’t ruin your first kiss before it starts. Make sure you have some privacy, and that it’s a personal moment between you and a girl before even considering a girl. This could be as simple as moving her 20 feet away from the crowd, or as elaborate as planning a date around taking her to a special “spot” where you know you’ll have some one-onone time. How To Kiss A Girl Step 2: Build Tension As we already know, a great kiss doesn’t just appear out of thin air. Instead, it’s an outgrowth of the moments leading up to the kiss. Once you and a girl have some “isolated discretion,” it’s important you don’t just lunge into her and expect a kiss. You first need to build sexual tension.

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If you’re unfamiliar with sexual tension, then I’d highly recommend you browse the archives of this blog or my column on TSB Magazine (or read my book, The 4 Elements of Game). Creating sexual tension is crucial for an enjoyable kiss. Often the fastest and easiest way to create sexual tension is by giving a very direct, very bold compliment. Saying something like, “Wow, I wish you hadn’t worn this dress out tonight because it looks amazing on you, and now I can hardly think straight” is a perfect example. Why? First off, the compliment is good-humored but also very bold. You’re complimenting her, but you’re also sort of “blaming” her for looking too good. This is so much than simply saying, “You look beautiful tonight” before it amplifies the tension of the compliment. Using a compliment like that will electrify the moment, setting the stage for the kiss.

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How To Kiss A Girl Step 2: Shameless Execution Once you feel that “spark” of tension, it’s time to pull the trigger and go for the kiss. While that advice may sound very simply, it’s incredibly hard for most guys to follow. This is because most guys want to look for “signs” or “signals” that a girl wants to be kissed. Or worse, some guys even wait for a girl to kiss them (hardly ever happens!). If you want to be a good kisser, you need to a high-stakes player. Don’t ask a woman if she wants to be kissed. Don’t drive yourself crazy looking for the “perfect signal.” Don’t even make the mistake of hesitating. Instead, just lean in and kiss her. In other words: execute shamelessly. Now, a girl may reject your first attempt at going for a kiss—this is perfectly fine. In all likelihood, it probably has nothing to do with you. So don’t feel rejected! Just respect her

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comfort levels, and go back into being normal. A immutable rule of kissing is this: if you attempt to kiss a girl, but she doesn’t kiss you back, BUT she’s still talking to you = she wants to kiss you but just needs more time. In fact, if you really want a “signal” to know whether or not a woman is interested in you or wants to be kissed by you, simply go for the kiss and see what happens. If she’s still standing in front of you, you passed! You wants to be kissed! (Even if she didn’t kiss you right then and there.) So there you have it: how to kiss a girl in 3 simple stages. Don’t over-think it. Don’t over-complicate it. Have confidence in yourself and pucker up.

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2. Over-Gaming: Race to the Waypoint This entire course is predicated on a concept called “the waypoint.” In The 4 Elements of Game we explained the waypoint as such: The waypoint comes with the decision to have sex. Zack jokingly calls this “when she hits the BUY button.” For guys, hitting the “buy button” happens instantly: if the girl’s hot enough, sex is a given. For a woman, however, the waypoint comes later—sometimes after a few minutes, sometimes after a few dates. But once she’s reached her waypoint, it’s crucial you recognize it so you don’t give her a reason to change her mind. At the waypoint, you transition in a girl’s mind from “random guy hitting on her” to “hot man she’s going to sleep with.” If you ask a woman when she hit her waypoint, often she knows the precise moment. I’ve had girls tell me the exact

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thing I did or said that caused them to hit the “buy button.” As such, once you transition in her mind, you must also transition your behavior. After you’ve reached the waypoint, begin to treat her like she’s your girlfriend. Don’t continue to “game” her. In other words, once you hit the waypoint don’t make the mistake of continuing to treat her like a girl you’re hitting on. The strategies in this course are what lead to the waypoint. In a sense, this course teaches “game” because it’s primarily concerned with skills and techniques. As such, it’s crucial you understand the caveat that comes with that: The strategies in this course should only be used when it’s appropriate. Many interactions fizzle not from a lack of game—but instead from too much game. If you’re blatantly trying to apply as many strategies from this course as

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possible, you’re over-gaming. Recall in the opening story that my girl had to point out the things I did. Never once did I think “I should do this tactic now” or “I should say this line now.” I simply understood how to tactfully keep things on track. Likewise, you should wait until a moment presents itself to use this information, rather than creating a moment. In fact, “creating a moment” is another way to describe overgaming. Your “dating skills” should only be applied when needed, then forgotten about. It’s not necessarily bad if you have to consciously think of what to do—but it is bad if you consciously think of when to do it. In other words, let the moments come to you— don’t go looking for them. Ideally, you just want to arrive at the waypoint as soon as possible. That’s all that matters. If your goal is to attract quality women, why would you care about “running game?” Ask yourself would you rather…

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Say an amazing pickup line, or attract an amazing girl? Successfully use a great “kiss technique,” or enjoy a great kiss? Have a bunch of funny stories to recite, or have an emotionally significant connection with a woman you’re starting to care about? The choice boils down to this: Are you into game, or are you into women? The answer seems obvious, but guys often let their love of game become an obstacle to getting to the waypoint. Don’t be another guy who disqualifies himself by over-gaming. Be patient. Remember the proverb: A karate master doesn’t go around kicking everyone’s ass; he only uses his skill when necessary. The same holds true for outer game—only use it when needed.

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Further Resources: Dating Advice from Bobby and Rob

Make Small Talk Sexy: Conversation Escalation Conversation Escalation is a step-bystep system that will show you how to use flirtatious and sexy “small talk” to quickly engage, connect with, and “turn on” a woman… The program is jam packed with step by step instructions and word-forword examples of exactly what to say (and how to say it)… so that your words nestle their way in, and take complete control of her emotions… And will completely IMPLANT the skill of carrying a “flirtatious” conversation with a woman into your game, brain, and personality, and make it a PERMANENT part of you. (So you never struggle again)

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Further Resources

The Natural Approach

I call this program “The Natural Approach” because it allows you to learn to meet women in the same way you learned everything else you’re good at... Naturally …And, it allows you to still be your natural, authentic self while still doing things that actually work and attract dozens of women into your life… You will learn a simple secret that gets rid of your fears of approaching women, and actually makes it a lot easier.

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Make Small Talk Sexy Presents… Never Run Out of Things to Say: 9 Steps to Control Her Attention by Bobby Rio Published by TSB Media

Never Run Out of Things to Say: 9 Steps to Control Her Attention Let’s face it; talking to a beautiful woman does not come easily to too many of us. In fact, so much of our energy and anxiety is deplored just gathering up the courage to approach her, that by the time the conversation begins we’re burnt out and can’t think of a damn thing to say. Holding a fun and flirtatious conversation with a woman does not need to be difficult. But I can tell you right now, that if you start talking to a woman, and quickly find yourself asking her a lot of questions about her job, school, if she has pets, or any other type of questions that even vaguely resemble stuff that would be on a job application- you’re dead in the water. So I’ve put together a list of nine ways to make sure that you’re having conversations filled with fun and banter- and ultimately escalate you toward your goal of sleeping with her.

Section One: 9 Skills for Better Conversations with Women 1. Avoid asking too many questions… instead make statements After breaking the ice with a woman, most guys will immediately start bombarding her with questions. These questions usually tend to be boring “get to know you” questions… you know, the same sort of questions your aunt will ask you at a family party. Asking too many questions not only bores her, but it will also prevent her from actually engaging in the conversation. What usually happens is men will jump from question to question, without ever having the sense to expand upon a topic you can tell she loves to talk about.

Try this instead: Any time you are talking to a woman and you ask her a question, follow up her answer with a statement rather than simply moving on to the next question. This not only shows that you are listening to her, but also shows that you can connect at a different level. And will usually open up the conversation to move toward more fun or intimate topics. You: So do you have any pets? Her: Yea, I actually have three of the cutest cats in the world. You: Mmm…. So you are one of those women with cats, huh? (sly smile) Her: Stop it..haha… no I’m not one of those crazy cat women… I just love my cats. You: They say people who like cats tend to me more independent than dog lovers. As you can see, just by following up the question with a statement, you are able to expand on the topic and bring a little fun and banter to the conversation. In my Conversation Escalation program I give more examples of what to say to girls. 2. Qualify her Once a man senses any sort of rapport with a woman, he immediately becomes scared shitless of breaking that rapport or saying anything that will damage his chances of moving forward. So he stays on “safe” topics. Unfortunately, this tends to work counterproductive, and usually winds up boring a woman that was previously interested.

Try this instead: Once you sense that you’ve sparked a woman’s interest a little bit begin qualifying her with questions or statements that place you in the role of “the selector.” This means you will make a statement that may disqualify her as potential lover. Let’s use the cat example from above to demonstrate: You: So do you have any pets? Her: Yea, I have three of the cutest cats in the world. You: mmm… We would never get along. I’m a dog person, and what I’ve heard is that dog and cat owners tend to have a really intense sexual connection, but disagree on every other possible point. As you can see, you took a “safe” topic like pets and were able to bring an element of sexuality to the conversation. Not only that, but by making the statement “we would never get along” you’re now placing the burden of approval seeking on her. 3. Use Cold Reads As men, we love to talk about facts, events, and amusing surface level stories. While all of these should make up a great deal of your conversations they tend to limit you from certain areas that really seem to ignite passion in a woman. Women get their “fix” from talking about the mystical, or the deeper level. Women love to delve into the emotional meaning behind the facts, events, or surface level stories. If you never hint to a woman that you are capable of communicating on this different wave length you’re missing out on a great opportunity to separate yourself from other men.

Try this instead: Next time you’re talking to woman, try using a cold reading that will allow you to go beneath the surface level, and get her to open up to some of her feelings. A cold read is simply stating something you’ve noticed about her, and then making a deeper observation about it. Here is an example that you could use fairly soon into a conversation when she says something about a previous date or guy she knew. You: I can tell just by the way that you are talking there that you are the kind of girl who goes on a lot of dates but has trouble finding someone you’re actually interested in. Then when you find that person, you usually lose interest very quickly. Her: Yea… that’s so true. You: I bet you really love adventure… sometimes it scares you, but deep down you crave something exciting. And what is probably happening is every time you’re meeting these guys… you sense within that they are not going to satisfy that adventure you crave. This particular example allowed you do delve into the mystical and emotional, and also allowed you to disqualify the other guys, and at the same time, present yourself as something new, exciting, and different, who just might be the cure for her ailment. 4. Talk about things that you are passionate about Since most men stick to “interview mode” topics like work and school… they seldom have a chance to demonstrate their passionate and excited side to a woman. Instead they talk about topics that bore them, and in turn, bore the woman.

Try this instead: When you ask a woman what she looks for in a man, pretty much all women will use the word passionate. While most of the time, I take what women say they want with a grain of salt, in this case, I found this to be completely true. The fact is, “enthusiasm breeds enthusiasm.” When you talk to a woman, stress the things you are passionate and enthusiastic about. Having passion towards something can take a relatively mundane subject like cooking, and elevate it to an engrossing conversation. If you love to travel, let her get a sense of what exactly excites you about seeing the world. If you’re into building your business let her see the leader in you, let your entrepreneurial spirit shine bright, if you love music, or art, or movies, don’t hide it. This doesn’t mean brag about your knowledge of these subjects it means explain what aboutthem really drives you.Women like men with drive, men who know what they want and go after it, let women see thatside of you. 5. Tease her When most men approach a beautiful woman, they put her on a pedestal… and because of thisthey tend to treat her like she is royalty. Most men become deathly afraid of offending her.They become so worried about looking cool or coming up with the perfect thing to say, that theconversation quickly fizzles out. As I previously discussed in how to make women laugh ,women want a guy that is fun to bearound. The truth is we are all still children at heart. Although most of us love a goodintellectual conversation from time to time, when we are out at a bar or on a date, we just wantto relax, laugh a little bit, and have a good time, forgetting about the worries and stress in ourlife.

And the best way to do that is to keep the conversation playful and fun. Try this instead: First and foremost, the whole point of teasing is to create a fun environment where a woman canloosen up and open up to you.Teasing basically means being silly with a girl. It means treating her the same way you wouldyour bratty little sister. It means picking on her in a fun and flirtatious way.Here is the thing, effective teasing means that you will have to drop your cool guy image for a while and just relax and have some fun with her. Don’t be afraid to be a little goofy. Here are some examples of teasing: Getting ready to give her a high five… then pulling your hand away like you changed your mind Imitating her Suggesting she’s coming on to you Tell her an overtly exaggerated lie, and then pick on her for being gullible and believing you As you can see, these are the same sort of things you did on the playground in the fourth grade.They worked then, and they work now. 6. Learn to improvise One of the biggest problems men complain about is running out of things to talk about. Thisusually happens for two reasons. First, the conversation stalls out because they don’t recognizehow to smoothly change a conversation thread. The second reason the conversation stalls out isbecause the men don’t provide enough new threads for the women to grab onto. What usually happens is a man will ask a question, and then im-

mediately begin to think aboutwhat he is going to say next. Because of this, he isn’t really focused on listening to what thewoman is saying, and misses new conversation topics that he could have easily transitioned into. Try this instead: The next time you are talking to a woman always try to present her with several different topicsthat she can latch onto when crafting your sentences. For example, instead of just saying “I love baseball,” which limits the conversation thread to thetopic of baseball. Say, “I love baseball because when I was young my father you used to take me to games, andnow that I’m older I feel a real sense of nostalgia towards it.” Now instead of forcing her to talk about baseball, she has the option of transitioning to one of theother threads you’ve brought up. She can tell a story of somewhere her dad used to take herwhen she was a little girl. Or she can talk about any number of things she feels nostalgia for. Now when she is talking, you should be listening for the same openings that she is giving you.For example, if she says “I love to cook, my mom taught me how to cook, and now I even findmyself watching those stupid cooking shows on TV.”Instead of just staying on the cooking thread you can say something like, “yea, I’m the same way with those travel shows on TV. I start watching them and get sucked into all of the amazinglocations, so where would you go on vacation if money wasn’t a factor?” Do you see how easy it was to transition to a new topic simply by taking one word (tv) andimprovising off it to a completely new topic? Most men are under the false impression that beautiful women don’t want to talk to them. Thisis not the case. Beautiful women

crave fun and flirtatious conversations just as much as we do.The fact is, there are so few men who know how to peak a woman’s interest through talking toher, that she is actually dying to meet a man who can. The main reason most men don’t communicate well with women is because they let theirnervousness and anxiety prevent them from showing a woman their fun side. The second biggestreason a man doesn’t connect with a woman is because he doesn’t talk to her in a way that sheresponds to. 7. Concentrate on the emotions rather than facts Women are different than men. As we talked about earlier in this report, women love to talk about the meaning behind actions and the emotions they evoke.It is also true that the emotions that you arise during a conversation she will subconsciouslyanchor them to you. This means that if you are talking about relationships and she starts talkingabout all of the bad feelings she experienced with her previous boyfriend, she will begin toassociate you with those feelings. Try this instead: If it is true that women will anchor negative feelings to you, than it must be true that women willanchor positive feelings to you. This is why it is important to draw her into a positive emotionalstate. One way to do this, as discussed in the last article, is to tease her. Another way to do thisis to ask questions and make statements that prompt her to talk about specific feelings that shehas for something. If you are talking to a woman and she mentions the fact that she likes to go snowboarding,instead of talking about facts such as what mountain does she usually snowboard at, or what kindequipment does she use (which is common questions you would ask another man) instead get herto talk about the feelings she experiences while snowboarding.

For example: You: Did you do anything fun last weekend? Her: Yea I went snowboarding. I had the besttime. You: Wow. I love snowboarding. I think I’mliterally addicted to the rush I get going down themountain. What about you? What excites youmost about snowboarding? Her: Well I guess it would be that feeling ofadventure… like going so fast, being so scared, butnot wanting it to end because it feels like you’rereally living. In this example you’ve taken the topic ofsnowboard and talked about the meaning behind snowboarding and emotions it evokes. Sincethese are emotions are positive, you’ve put the woman in a positive mood, and she hassubconsciously anchored the feeling of adventure, excitement, and not wanting it to end – toyou. 8. Tell more stories (that put you in a positive light) When a bunch of guys are sitting around with each other it becomes almost a competition as towho can tell the best story. We try to tell stories that make us appear the funniest, coolest, ormost dominant guy in the group. Yet for some reason when we get around a woman we totallyforget to make use of this skill. A woman wants to figure things out about you on her own. She doesn’t necessarily trust everything that you’re saying, so she is trying to look for little clues that will help her determinewhere you fit in the pecking order.Stories are a natural way to capture someone’s attention. And if told right, they are also a greatway to drop subtle clues as to the finer points of your persona. As you tell a story you need to remember that a woman is listening to your story, but at the sametime she is reading behind the lines to make certain judgments about you.For instance, let’s say you tell a story how Tuesday afternoon you were lying in bed with

a hangover and someone kept knocking on your door, until finally you answered it and it wasthese annoying religious freaks trying to convert you to some weird new religion. Well, while you may have intended the story to be funny farce about the annoying religiouspeople, she has already begun to pigeonhole you as the kind of guy who gets drunk on Mondaynights, doesn’t have a job he has to wake up for, and has no ambition to get out of bed until theafternoon. Unless you both are in college, these are not necessarily traits that will excite her. Try this instead: You don’t want to come off a bragging during your stories. This is why any positive detailsabout your life you want to emphasize must be hidden within a larger story. This means, whilethe story itself does not have to be positive, she must be able to uncover positive traits about youfrom within the story. Let’s use the same story above about the religious folks knocking on the door and see how wecould tell it in a way that sheds some positive light on you. You: So Tuesday afternoon I’m sleeping late. This was like the first good comfortable sleepI’ve had in a couple weeks as I’ve been busting my ass trying to elevate my business to the nextlevel. Monday night we scored a kick ass contract and me and my team finally decided it wastime to celebrate. So now Tuesday morning I’m lying in bed, with the kind of hangover Ihaven’t had in years, and I keep hearing a knock on the door. I just don’t want to get out ofbed. Later than night I had a few more important meetings, I really wanted to sleep off thehangover so I would be in top shape to deliver the proposal. Well, the knocking stops for liketen minutes… but then starts up again. And now they’re ringing my bell too. Finally I throw onsome clothes and head downstairs and answer the door… and it’s these two little girls. At firstI’m thinking they want to sell me girl scout cookies, but then she hands me this flyer that says “Let Jesus save you from your treacherous life” and I’m thinking “am I on some sort of list orsomething? haha”

In this version of the story I included enough details to let her jump to the conclusion that I aman ambitious and successful businessman. But I never came out and said it. I gave her thisinformation in the context of a story about a couple of religious nuts trying to convert me. 9. Remember the non-verbal’s In the next section I’m going to talk about how to draw a woman into your conversations. In this section I discuss the subtle things you need to be doing to project that you are a fun, confident man thatshe should feel excited to be talking to. Most men don’t do this. Instead, most men let their nervousness control their entire body andthey wind up coming off fidgety, tense, and even slightly awkward.This happens because while men are talking to a woman they get stuck in their own head. Theybegin concentrating extremely hard on how they can impress the woman. Try this instead: A tip that I heard from a great pickup artist once that has helped me over the years is to imaginethat the woman has already told you that later she is going to get naked and sprawl out over youbed and let you have your way with her. If you knew this, how would you act? You would probably be quite laid back, with a knowing sly smile on your face, and you wouldhave no problem getting fun and flirtatious because there wasn’t a risk of rejection.Well, can you imagine how acting this way can actually get you the result of having a womansprawled out naked in your bed? Give it a shot next time you’re out.

Section Two: How to Draw a Woman Into Your Conversation When most guys set out to improve their interactions with women they immediately begin researching pickup lines. And while good opening lines have their place in a conversation, there are other elements that will improve your chances of drawing a woman into your conversation that are much more powerful than a couple clever lines. In fact, guys who place too much emphasis on coming up with a clever opener, usually wind up falling flat on their face a few minutes into the conversation when the initial conversational thread dies out. Other guys assume that everything has to do with how “cool” and “alpha” you appear to a woman. The problem that arises here is that many men become so focused on portraying “alpha” body language that they wind up appearing stiff and unnatural. They also find that their desire to come off as “cool” makes them really just come off as cold or boring. The “cool” factor should really come from being calm and sure of yourself. That “cool” feeling comes from speaking in a relaxed fashion, but giving the impression that there IS more, that there is a “fire” beneath the surface. That’s the “allure”. That’s what women like, and what people like in general. The coolest people are the ones that are fun to talk to and fun to be with. I’ve been passing along a little slogan that has helped me when I was in a social situation and wasn’t quite sure how to draw women into my conversation… I would just ask myself “What would Tommy Lee do?” If you aren’t familiar with Tommy Lee just go to Youtube and watch some videos of him and you’ll begin to get a better understanding of what I mean.

What Draws Women In? 1. Your Voice One of the biggest tools that you have for drawing women into your conversations is your voice. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are, how calm you are, how interesting you are, and says a lot about you. Your tone of voice is so important because it allows you to convey comfort, and demonstrate that sense of the all-powerful relaxed confidence. It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times, especially when it is appropriate to the situation. There are many articles and books on improving your voice tonality, but the common fundamental seems to be speaking from your chest rather than your nose or mouth. Take a moment right now to test this out; grab some reading material and begin reading it out loud. However, focus on generating the sound from deep within your chest. Relax. Sound relaxed. See how relaxed this makes you feel and how relaxed you need to be to do this. Over the next few days when speaking to anyone, make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking, and where you are speaking from (your nose, mouth, or chest). Also, make note of how you felt (nervous, comfortable, and relaxed-confident). 2. Pacing and Pausing Another way to better engage a woman in your conversations is to let them flow better through the use of pacing and pausing. This is important because correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort and shows that you are relaxed. If you have a habit of speaking too quickly you are probably demonstrating tension and even a sense of panic. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest.

For the next few days, start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing, to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. Use variations in pace, and well-placed pauses, to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that “captivates” people and makes them want to listen to you. 3. Energy and Enthusiasm When I use my “What would Tommy Lee do?” motto it usually relates to the energy and enthusiasm he bring to all of his interactions. No matter what he is doing, you get the sense that he is having a hell of a good time doing it. Most guys are just TOO BORING. It’s good to have the ability and range to display passion, enthusiasm, energy, and excitement when appropriate. If someone else is being interesting, you can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. This also allows you to convey how interesting someone else is as well. When someone else is being boring, you act boring, or bored. By doing this, you get stuck in fewer boring, dead-end conversations. If they do or say something that is interesting to you, then you can show more enthusiasm. For the next few conversations you have with women where you ARE interested in the subject, go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak, how you listen, and how your respond. Go ahead and start using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that women can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. Other Elements of Drawing Women Into Your Conversations In addition to methods listed above for making your conversations more appealing to women, one of the biggest skills that you can learn is the art of storytelling. As we discussed in the previous section, men who can tell a good story will generally always have a

crowd of eager women waiting to hear what they have to say next. Becoming a good story teller is just a matter of practice. The first thing that you need to do is take notes throughout your life of stories that are worth retelling. When something happens, write it down. And later, practice telling the story out loud. Do you remember the scene is Reservoir Dogs where Mr. Orange is practicing his story? You need to bring the same commitment to perfecting a few good stories. By having a few “go to” stories you will feel more confident within conversations, and you will also better develop your skill to do “on the spot” storytelling. 4. Keep things light and fun When I think of the “What would Tommy Lee do?” motto I also think about his ability to keep things on a light and fun level. It is not necessary to be the funniest guy in the room. It is necessary to be the most fun and engaging. You don’t need to be the guy that has everybody constantly laughing… but you should strive to be the guy who constantly has a smile on everyone’s face and always tends to bring out other people’s playful and silly side. If you can do this, you will have no problem drawing women into your conversations. In the next section you’re going to learn how to make a girl laugh.

Section Three: How to Make a Girl Laugh It was only recently I came to realize that making women laugh was completely different than I had previously thought. For the longest time I used to believe that that the same humor that had my friends rolling on the floor in laughter would naturally cause the same reaction in the women I was talking to. Wouldn’t it make sense? Isn’t comedy supposed to be universal? Shouldn’t that be that how to make a girl laugh? But when I really

started to pay attention to what women were laughing at I started to notice; The sarcastic wit that made me a hit around most of my guy friends very seldom got positive reactions around women. Some of the guys I knew who had the lamest, most childish humor, often seemed to get the best reaction of women.Women very rarely judged the originality and cleverness of humor the way my guy friends did. So what do women find funny? About four years ago I really started to get serious about trying to figure out what I was doing wrong with my interactions with women. It was at this point that I came across a book that taught the concept of cocky and funny. The concept made a lot of sense, so I tweaked my humor, and started interacting with women in this new, different manner. Having misunderstood the advice contained within the book, I set out to basically bully women into liking me. I used sharp sarcasm and ironic wit to often humiliate women. The worst thing that happened to me was that I actually found several girls that just ate this shit up. These few women loved it. And I took it as sign that this was the correct way to make women laugh, so I proceeded to use this same humor on every woman I met. And failed miserably. What I hadn’t realized was that the few girls that seemed to really enjoy this sarcastic humor, while attractive, were somewhat of tomboys with a masculine energy that didn’t represent the rest of the female population. I was about to give up. Then one day I just sat there and watched my friend Will interact with women. Will had always been somewhat of a natural with

women. I could never understand it as I found his humor silly and childish… and he rarely said anything that would have any of my male friends laughing. As I watched him, I began to pay more attention to the way women were reacting to him. The women that were surrounding him had a permanent smile on their faces. While they were never rolling on the floor laughing, they were constantly in a state of playfulness and fun. Now curious, I began to hone in on exactly what he was doing. As I listened I found that he was interacting with them the same way a fourth grade boy would interact with a fourth grade girl on the playground.There was no ground breaking humor.

Instead there was constant silliness. He was perpetually teasing them. He was making funny faces. Using his voice to tell stories in a way that reminded me of an over energized nine year old telling the story of how he beat up the town bully. There was an endless barrage of only mildly amusing jokes, goofy movie quotes, and shameless physical flirting. But the girls were eating it up. It was right then that I came to realize that women don’t want funny. They want fun. I had always concentrated so hard on finding those perfect one-liners that would pronounce me the king of comedy and have my audience amazed at my originality and wit, that I forgot who my audience was. Women aren’t that funny. Women don’t really care about original, witty, and sharp humor. Women want to have fun. They don’t want

to have to think. And if your jokes are making them think too much, you’re probably taking them out of the moment. A simple process for having fun with women If you’re a guy having trouble making women laugh, then your first step is to look around and pay attention to what they are actually laughing at.You’ll see that they much rather watch silly romantic comedies than the witty indie dark comedies that win all the awards. You’ll see that they don’t care much about the originality of your jokes, and in fact they are more likely to laugh at you repeating a knock knock joke you heard in the sixth grade than whatever sarcastic remark that pops into your mind. You’ll see that women don’t appreciate the concept of “cool” the way men do. Women would rather you take the stick out of your ass and act in a fun silly way than stand around like you’re a big shot. Playground humor never gets old. Never. Women want you be around a guy that allows them to have fun. The next time that you are out with a woman and engaged in a conversation with her, make it a priority to take the conversation back to the playground. As you are talking to her, imagine that the two of you are a couple of nine year olds on the playground during recess of school. Begin acting in a manner congruent to this. Use things like the “Mouse race” With the mouth race you take a pen and tell the woman that: Three mice are having a race, a blind mouse, and dumb mouse, and a deaf mouse. You put the men pen to arm and say “here is the blind mouse, tell him when to stop” and you start drawing. She’ll say stop right away. Then you say “here is the dumb mouse,

tell him when to stop” and you start drawing. She’ll say stop right away. Then you say “here is the deaf mouse, tell him when to stop” and you start drawing. This time when she says stop you keep drawing. She’ll say stop again. And you’ll keep drawing. If she doesn’t get it… look at her and say “he’s deaf, he can’t hear you.” And keep drawing. By now you’ve drawn a line up her arm. This is something completely stupid. Something that was funny in 2nd grade. But for some reason, it’s funny all over again. It’s always good to have a few of these little games ready. You never want to do more than a couple of them as they will get old. But by doing a one or two you show the girl that you’re the kind of guy that doesn’t take himself too seriously and who she can have fun around. She’ll appreciate that a lot more than that witty ironic observation you spent an hour perfecting the joke in your mind. Remember, take her back to the playground.

Section Four: Flirting Tips for “Unfunny” Guys So in the last section we talked a bit about what kind of humor attract women. But I always get the question “what if I’m just not naturally funny?” Let’s face something; Not all of us are funny. Sure, we pull off some one liner that impresses our friends from time to time, and occasionally we just “click” with a woman and have her laughing hysterically, but most of the time our sense of humor is just “average”… at best. So what do we do most of the time? If you’re like I was, then maybe you drag yourself out to a bar… and PRAY.I would pray that I was “on” or that I would stumble upon a girl I just connected with instantly so that I could avoid that anxious feeling I got when

I searched my mind for something funny to say and came up BLANK.Yes, more times than not, I just couldn’t seem to find those perfect lines that some guys seem to possess for just about any situation. And I couldn’t figure out how to transition into that “playground humor” I talked about in the last section. Maybe you had a friend like my buddy Leo. You introduce Leo to ANYBODY and within minutes he he’ll have them cracking up. He knew exactly how to flirt. Girls could say ANYTHING to Leo, and he’d find a way to turn it into something they could share a laugh over.Even as they were saying “you’re such an asshole…” they had been smiles plastered on their faces. For years… I wanted to be Leo. Then I came to a stark, depressing, and then ultimately liberating realization:I would never be Leo. I would never possess a mind that ALWAYS has some funny remark to make. My mind just didn’t work that way. And the more I tried to force it the more BORING I became. So I stopped forcing it. Here is something I learned as began to pay attention to more and more men who were successful with women: Most of them aren’t that funny. Most of them have an average sense of humor just like you and me. The difference is they don’t depend on being “funny” to flirt with women. They naturally understood something that took me years to figure out;flirting isn’t being “funny.” Flirting is communicating with a woman in a “sexual” way. And there are DOZENS of ways to do this.

In fact, a whole lot of “sexual communication” can take place without you ever even opening your mouth. Smiling at a woman at just the right moment is flirting. Letting a woman catch you checking her out is flirting Winking at a woman right in middle of her telling you off… is flirting In fact, 3 of the biggest factors in flirting have absolutely nothing to do with what comes out of your mouth. I still remember the night this clicked for me.I realized that a subtle glance, at just the right moment, says more than any words possibly could. Let me tell you a story that demonstrates some of these flirting tips. I was standing near behind an extremely hot woman waiting to order a drink. She was sipping a mixed drink from astraw. Something made her laugh and she blew into the glass and the drink poured out. I wanted to talk to this girl so I desperately searched my mind for something witty to say. I drew a blank.So instead of forcing something unfunny or awkward, I waited for the exact moment she looked up at me and our eyes met, and simply shook my head back and forth and gave her one those looks that says “Can’t take you anywhere.” She then turned to her friends and started chatting with them. I squeezed in to order my drink. My mind, still trained to make the same mistakes I talked about earlier, is now racing to find something funny to follow up with. While the bartender was handing me my drink, one of her friends turned and asked me some question. I then turned into the group

of three girls. I said something that made the group laugh. I then caught eyes with the one I was interested in and gave her subtle look that said “don’t spill it this time.” The girl was a little tipsy. Not stupid drunk, but buzzed enough to know she was a little drunk. Later in the conversation she starts telling me a story about something that had happened to her the night before. She is excited about the story and talking quite fast. She trips over a word or two. I then give her a look similar to the Rock’s eyebrow raise. Not a blatant eye brow raise, but a look that says “you lost me sweetie.” She then slapped my chest and said “stop it” And its on. What I learned during that interaction was that flirting is just as much non-verbal as it is verbal. 3 Key Flirting Tips With Women There were three key factors I discovered about how to flirt that night that quickly took my game to the next level. And I want to share these flirting tips with you: Timing Subtleness Facial expressions and glances Every interaction has a beat. And once you learn to get in tune with the beat of an interaction, your social intelligence will appear to sky rocket. The great stand-upcomedians have mastered the art of timing. Rent videos of some of the all-time greats… and study how they use timing. When the woman at the bar spilled her drink I waited for the right moment. I didn’t rush to make a comment, making my interest too apparent. And I didn’t wait until later to use it as a joke. I simply

waited for the inevitable moment that our eyes met, and subtly shook my head. She smiled. And the dance began. I hope by reading this you’re encouraged to go out there and create these “sexual communications” with women, without waiting for the perfect thing to say. Flirting with women is a skill you must learn if you want to seduce them. But, there are more than one ways to skin a cat. These are some of the best flirting tips I can give you. I highly recommend you check out Make Small Talk Sexy (www.makesmalltalkexy.com) where I give further flirting tips, and give many verbal ways to have more fun, flirtatious, and sexual conversations with women. It will give you a crash course education in how to flirt. Now when you talk to a woman in a way that attracts her you’ll begin to notice that women will: Make excuses to keep talking to you Touch you more (putting her hand under your shirt, or feeling your muscles) Getting jealous when you talk to other girls Laughing at your jokes (even the ones that aren’t that funny) Leaning in and grinding up against you The one thing I want to leave you with is: Learning how to flirt and get good with girls, so that you can attract them, get the kiss, get them back to your bedroom and close the deal… it’s easier than you think.

Section Five: Turn Your Nervousness Around Women into Sexual Electricity

Throughout high school and into my first semester of college I was absolutely paralyzed by my fear of talking to beautiful women.The minute I sensed an interaction coming, I would tense up, my mouth would dry, my voice would crack, and I would feel my body visibly shaking. I began to fear this reaction so much that I completely avoided talking with any women. Heck, even merely thinking about approaching a woman brought about this paralyzing reaction. As I became determined to get better with women I thought the solution was to completely eliminate this nervousness and fear. I tried various forms of affirmations, nlp, self-hypnosis, and visualizations. But none of this seemed to work. In fact, the only thing that ever provided me the courage to chat up a woman was drinking, lots of drinking. Unfortunately, while drinking gave me the courage to approach, by the time that courage arrived, I had lost most of my ability to hold a conversation without making a complete jackass out of myself. Around the same time I was battling this approach anxiety with women, I was quickly conquering a lifelong “stage fright” I had about performing in front of large groups of people. I was in a fraternity at college, and we routinely performed a homecoming skit in front of an audience containing several thousand people every year. Our skit had a long reputation as being the “show stealer” and we always had a pressure to perform. I came to realize something after performing a major role in two of the skits. The realization was that on game day, in front of the thousands of people, with all the pressure on… we actually performed at a much higher level.

Yes, the actual performance ALWAYS came off many times better than our rehearsals that we did in private.This is not a phenomenon isolated to us, in fact; musicians, actors, public speakers, and athletes often talk about “Game Day Performance” always out performing their practice sessions. These same musicians, actors, public speakers, and athletes routinely talk about how the pressure elevates them to a higher level, and how the fear turns into an adrenaline rush that ignites an almost zen like state. And how they feed off the energy of the crowd. During my times performing in front of thousands of people at MSU I came to understand what they meant by that. Feeding off the energy of a woman It was also during the same period that I came to realize something else in regards to nervousness with women: If you completely lose your nervousness around a woman, you also lose the sexual tension, the excitement, the desire to perform, and a bit of your mojo.Yes, after clawing and fighting my way into several relationships during college, I quickly learned that oncethat nervousness around a woman fades, so does my excitement to interact with her. And not only does my excitement diminish, but so does my performance. When there is no pressure, no fear, and no nervousness, I find that I am much less often “on.” My jokes aren’t as funny. I am much less charismatic. And the sexual tension is completely zapped from the room. You hear the same story from the athletes, musicians, and public speakers. Many of them will declare how once they become too comfortable their performance diminishes. It loses the spark that harbored all the passion and energy. The key to overcoming your nervousness around women is NOT to completely eliminate it. No, complete elimination of your fear

would probably kill your mojo and prevent you from performing at a peak level. Instead, you want to turn that nervousness into sexual electricity. Earlier in this section I talked about the symptoms of nervousness around women. These symptoms include; dry mouth, tenseness, fidgetiness, shaking, and cracking of the voice. These symptoms don’t come from the nervousness itself. These symptoms come from the surprise the nervousness causes your body. When you jump into a new state, and fear arises unexpectedly, your body responds with these symptoms. It is a gut level reaction. And in order to overcome this anxiety, you must learn how to change the symptoms of the nervousness. And not the nervousness itself. How to turn fear into sexual electricity Every time my fraternity stepped in front of the crowd of thousands to perform our homecoming skit we were all full of fear and nervousness. But we were ready for it… And because we were ready for it we were able to transmute that fear into energy. Here is how we did it. The day of the parade we would thrive on the adrenaline that was pumping through our veins. We became social animals. We would march through campus sucking up the adulation and energy of the many people asking us if we were ready to perform.The more people that we talked to, the more pressure that mounted, the further and further we went into our zen like state.That nervous energy became energy to exceed all expectations. It became energy to top last year’s performance. And it became so intense that we were operating at a completely different plane of existence.

This is what you must learn to do with women. First, feel and acknowledge the nervousness and fear. Now it is no longer a surprise making it much less likely that the really damaging symptoms will occur.Next, embrace the fear and nervousness. This fear should make you swell up with adrenaline that you are alive and filled with the capability to live outside your comfort zone- and the excitement of knowing that you are about to experience something new.Remember, you no longer feel this fear and nervousness around women you’re no longer attracted to… and trust me, when it’s gone, you’ll do anything to get it back. Now, ignite the energy by elevating yourself to the next level socially. Get outside your head, and begin sucking in the energy of everyone around you. As you suck in their energy make it a point to give back just as much energy as you take. It is at this point that the sexual electricity should begin flowing through your veins. Finally, engage in conversations with women that most excite you. And begin to share that sexual electricity with them.You’ll find that not all women will be receptive you this electricity, but in your heightened state you just need to find the few that are. And sparks will fly. Additional Resources Free: Switch a Few “Words” to Ignite Attraction video Here is a video that talks about how you can switch a few words you use to create more attraction in a woman. Make Small Talk Sexy: Conversation Escalation Free: Magnetic Messaging video I also put together a brand new free video where I reveal how you can use three simple text messages to turn a woman on, and get her out on a date.

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