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Make Him A Monogamy Junkie™ by Gloria Lee

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Table Of Contents Introduction�� 4 Here’s What You’ll Get With This Special Report�� 8 Men Love Happy Women�� 10 So let’s break it down. �� 14 The Solution To Fear�� 16 The solution to fear comes from three things:�� 16 Step One: Choose To Be Happy. Right Now.�� 17 Step Two: CHOOSE To Love Yourself. Fiercely. Right Now.�� 24 You Decide, Right Now, To Become Fiercely Self-Compassionate.�� 25 Step Three: Choose To Live In THIS Moment. Right Now.�� 29 Your Own Body Is Your Greatest Guide To The Present Moment�� 30 Conclusion: What To Do Next�� 32

Introduction Hi, my name is Gloria lee, and I’m a relationship expert and bestselling author. I’m also someone who is passionate about helping women get off the relationship roller coaster and experience BIG love, through easy tools and usable insights. And here’s why you should listen to every word I have to say ... I became a relationship expert in the simplest and most painful way possible – I sucked with men and relationships for most of my adult life. I stumbled and bumbled my way through heartbreak after heartbreak, humiliation after humiliation, and I made the same mistakes over and over again. Finally, I was forced to wake up in the most brutal way possible: when the love of my life, Damien, dumped me over dinner one day because he just wasn’t attracted to me any more. The resulting pain from that breakup was so intense, so crippling, so mind-explodingly awful, that I realized I didn’t literally have a choice: Either I figured out what I was doing wrong with men and love, or I would be unhappily single for the rest of my life. My whole life, I always wanted to hear someone tell me, ‘You are my chosen person. I want to be with YOU more than anyone else I’ve ever met. Please be mine forever.’ I wanted to be CHOSEN. To be seen as something precious.

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To be the woman that a man would crave and adore and really, truly want to BE with in the biggest way possible. I’m now comfortable admitting that for the longest time I was a total screw up with men. Not because I was fat (although for a long time, I was.) Not because of anything I said, or did, or how I looked at all (although I will probably never be thought of as ‘conventionally beautiful’ by the guy on the street.) But because for the longest, most agonizing time, I didn’t know that, for my relationships to work, I had to get my MIND right first. Deep down, I saw myself as unattractive. Undesirable. Not good enough. I thought I’d probably either end up alone, or that I’d have to ‘settle’ for some average relationship with some average guy – that no one truly sparkly and amazing and INCREDIBLE would ever choose me. In fact, deep down inside, I think I believed that it would be impossible for me to ever have an incredible, sexy, smart, successful, self-aware, generous, and LOVING man choose to be with me. Because I didn’t realize back then that loving MYSELF unconditionally was the first and biggest step to experiencing the miraculous, unconditional, BIG LOVE I’d always wanted from a man. These days, I’m happy to report that everything is different. You see, after I got dumped and got heartbroken, I knew something had to change. So I dove into the game of figuring out how to have relationships that truly work, and I dove in headfirst.

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I made every mistake possible. I absorbed information and interviewed experts and discovered tools and formulated methodologies and tested them out and learned my lessons. And along the way, I figured out a way of relating to men and relating to MYSELF that allows me to experience the kind of love that feels so blissful, so good, so amazing, that it’s permeated every single aspect of my life. Not because I needed a man to ‘save’ me. Not because I wanted to ‘lose myself’ in a relationship. Not because I felt broken and wanted to be fixed. But because I finally learned that to create the kind of blissful Big Love I truly desired, I had to learn how to get my head right first. I figured out that if I got my mind right, my relationships would follow. So I learned how to release and accept fear, express my truth, and build MASSIVE self-love. I learned to trust myself. I figured out how to choose a mindset that delighted and inspired me on my journey to love. And then I applied all of it to my relationship with my then-ex, Damien ... ... and he turned around and fell so hard in love with me that he asked me (begged me, actually) to marry him. And today, I finally know what it’s like to have a TRUE partnership with someone. To love myself deeply, and receive the love – the shiny, vivid, exciting, beautiful, ever-expanding love – that I’ve always wanted as a result. To feel great about who I am, and know that I am worthy of as much love as I can

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take. To have the kind of relationship that enhances every aspect of my life, and doesn’t require me to change who I am, or make soul-sucking compromises, or settle for less, in any way whatsoever. It’s my goal for you to have that kind of love, too. I want you to have the kind of love that feels easy and natural and right. The kind of love that nourishes you. The kind of love that allows you to be celebrated and desired and cared for deeply just as you are right now – no changes needed. So here’s the goal with this little book you’re reading right now: My mission is to help you get off the relationship rollercoaster and experience BIG love – easy, blissful love that feels good and keeps growing - through easy tools and usable insights. The tools? Your inner game. Your ability to feel unconditional love for yourself exactly as you are right now. (Yes, you really are perfect. You might not believe this yet, but it’s true.) Your ability to release the fear and anxiety and little whisper-voice in your head that says you’re not enough. And your perspective and beliefs about men, love, the world, and your ability to experience relationships that LIBERATE you and enhance your life, instead of detracting from it and from you. All of these things are absolutely in your control, and are your pathway to joyful love that nourishes and supports you so you can live your greatest, most on-purpose, inspiring life imaginable.

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The bottom line is, your perceptions become your reality – so choose to choose how you see yourself, the world, and love.

Here’s What You’ll Get With This Special Report I designed this report with one clear, important message in mind: To give anyone who was interested in experiencing true, easy, lasting love a ‘blueprint’ for experiencing it. Real love is meant to be easy and feel elightful. This book will reveal the 3 top keys to experiencing it for yourself. Each of these steps I have personally implemented in my life. Each of these steps is what allowed me to release fear and self-doubt, and to love myself unconditionally – which experinece forged a direct path towards letting in incredible love with another person. So why should you trust me? Well ... I’m finally comfortable admitting it: Because I’m a woman who (now) knows what she’s doing with men and love. As of today, I get paid thousands in fees for sharing the type of information I’m about to give you now for free. I’m a top-selling author and relationship expert, and I help women in more than 33 different countries around the world (at last count) experience more and better love - love that feels good and continues to grow instead of diminish. And most importantly, love that they can experience RIGHT NOW, without having to change themselves or the way they live their lives in any way.

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Whatever place you are at right now, I’ve designed this report (plus my forthcoming relationship program) to help take you to the next level of love and happiness in your life. This report is for anyone who wants to experience more and better love without the struggle. It’s for anyone who wants to CHOOSE their level of happiness instead of letting life choose it for you. It’s also for anyone who thinks that experiencing big, miraculous, REAL love is out of their hands or out of their league. (This report will directly challenge that belief, as well as many other limiting beliefs you may have about yourself and relationships.) Are you ready to remove your barriers to experiencing unconditional love? Are you ready to experience love that feels joyful – that doesn’t require you, or anyone else, to change? Are you ready to remove the frustrations and tensions from your relationships with men and experience greater intimacy than you’ve ever felt before? Are you ready to learn how to stop settling, stop fearing, stop coming from a place of anxiety and pain, and to experience real, deep, Joyful Love - love allows you to be exactly who you are and be CELEBRATED for it? Are you ready to accept and embrace yourself as a truly perfect being who is worthy of love RIGHT NOW? Then let’s go.

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Men Love Happy Women If you want to be, and stay, irresistibly attractive to men everywhere, then here’s the first thing you need to know: Men love HAPPY women. Happiness is the most powerful aphrodisiac, beauty aid, and radiance booster known to womankind. When you’re happy, your energy is high. Your frequency – your energetic vibration that draws in other beings and things of like vibration - is high (which means you attract other happy people and opportunities into your life.) Your skin glows. Your eyes sparkle. And you emit a kind of invisible spiritual ‘light’ that literally draws men in like bees to honey. And when it comes to happiness, your biggest enemy is FEAR. I’ve spent a lot of time discussing this issue with my friends and clients, and time and again, nearly every problem that women have when it comes to men and love boils down to FEAR. Fear is the enemy of happiness, the enemy of authenticity, the enemy of presence, energy, and desire, and it is the OPPOSITE of love and attraction. Fear, anxiety, insecurities, and neuroses (which we all have, myself included) tie up a VAST amount of energy, lower your vibration, draw in low-frequency people and events, upset your hormones, make your face droop and sag, and cause you to act scatty, unfocused, distracted, and unsexy.

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Fear is the opposite of attraction. Fact: ALL of the things that kill attraction and love are based in FEAR. • Neediness? Fear of not getting enough love. • Clinginess? Fear of being abandoned. • Jealousy? Fear of not being chosen, of not being ‘good enough’. • Worrying that he won’t commit? Fear that you’re losing him, or that you could lose him in the future. • Getting pissed because he’s checking out other women? Fear of losing face, fear that he’ll choose them over you, fear that you’re not as attractive as she is. • Issuing ultimatums or scheming up manipulations to try and move the relationship forward? Fear of not getting enough love in the future, fear that he doesn’t love you enough now to commit. . • Getting angry, resentful, pissed or resentful when he doesn’t show up for you in your relationship the way you want him to? Fear that it’s all going wrong, fear that he’s not good enough, fear that in the future things will get worse, fear that you’re not right for each other, fear that your needs will not get met. It’s all rooted in FEAR. Fear is the opposite of attraction, the death of love, causes you to place toxic expectations on the man in your life, causes you to act like your happiness and wellbeing are in his hands instead of yours, and it is the BIGGEST reason why you don’t feel like you have the love you want, to the degree you want, from the man you want. The good news is, changing the way you experience fear (whether you’re aware of it or not, I guarantee that fear is affecting the way you relate to men and the way

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you relate to yourself right now) is both easy and fast to do. And it all comes down to one incredibly powerful, life-changing concept: The way you think is the way you feel. In other words, if you’re feeling fearful, insecure, and not good enough, that doesn’t mean that you ARE. It just means the thoughts flooding your mind (which you’re probably not even consciously aware of) are ones that are creating the EMOTION of fear, so you start to believe that it’s ‘true’. Just take a second and think about the implications of this: • The way you think creates the way you feel. • The way you feel dictates how you act. • And the way you act creates your LIFE. If you want to boost your attractiveness to men, draw in an incredible relationship that works at the highest level, and live a big, on-purpose life filled with fun and passion and connection and REAL love, then your biggest step forwards lies in changing the way you THINK. When you replace negative thoughts with ones that support your irresistibility and feed your attraction and life goals, your reality can and will transform almost immediately into something completely magical. You may be thinking, ‘This sounds crazy. Changing the way I think won’t change my life. My life genuinely sucks right now. My problems are SERIOUS.’ Or maybe you’re clinically depressed. Or suffering from anxiety. Or an eating disorder. Or panic attacks, or insomnia, or chronic stress, or ill health, or maybe you

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have credit card debt that makes you feel like you’re drowning every time you get your bank statement in the mail. Or maybe you’re absolutely convinced that you’re not smart enough, not beautiful enough, too overweight, too underweight, too old, inferior to others, ‘naturally unhappy’, shy, not talented enough, or not successful enough to get the love and desire you truly want. Or maybe you’ve suffered a catastrophic and heartbreaking loss. Look, I get it. Pain exists. Problems exist. We all have our issues to work through, and if every philosopher I know of says that we will ALL experience crippling loss and grief at some point in our lives, I’m not one to argue. But this is where things get really interesting: It’s not what’s happening IN your life that determines your feelings. It’s the messages you send yourself about what’s happening. It’s your thoughts, the conversation in your head, that determines how you feel about your life – not what’s actually HAPPENING in your life. This isn’t just hocus-pocus self-help mumbo-jumbo, either: it’s the basic tenet of cognitive therapy, one of the most widely practiced and most intensely researched forms of psychotherapy in the world. And as therapy goes, it’s truly powerful stuff: study after study has confirmed that it’s at least as helpful as antidepressants and other medications in boosting mood and increasing general happiness.) Cognitive therapist Dr David Burns M.D. (author of the absolutely amazing Feeling Good) states that “your thoughts often have much more to do with how you feel than what is actually happening in your life.”

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So here’s the deal: Happiness is sexy. Men are drawn to HAPPY women. And the power to be much, much happier every single day lies in your hands RIGHT NOW. You don’t even have to change anything in your life to reap the benefits. To claim your happiness and irresistible sexiness to men, all you have to do is change the THOUGHTS YOU ARE HAVING about your life. (This is definitely not a new concept, by the way: almost 2,000 years ago, Greek philosopher and all-around badass Epictetus stated that people are disturbed and upset “not by things, but by the views we take of them.” Heck, even Shakespeare knew the truth: in Hamlet, Act 2 Scene 2, he says “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”) I’d like you to take a moment right now and realize what this means for your ability to effortlessly draw in and elegantly attract a great man, a great relationship, a great sex life and a great LIFE.

So let’s break it down. If … 1. 2. 3. 4.

Men want a HAPPY woman (and they do!), and The way you think creates the way you feel, and The way you feel drives your actions, and Your actions create your reality …

Then that means that changing this ONE thing about yourself – the thoughts inside your brain - is literally THE most powerful thing you can ever do to live your life as a

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sexy, sensual, seductively irresistible woman, attract all the attention and affection you want, quit sabotaging your power, and have amazing men fall all over themselves in love with your happiness and bright shining light. Powerful stuff. So, here’s how to do it.

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The Solution To Fear Fear is a normal, healthy, NATURAL part of being a living human being. Fear is actually a gift – it helps us stay safe, keeps us alive, and pushes us away from things and experiences that could hurt or kill us. So, thanks, fear : ) At the same time, though, fear run amok can truly destroy your happiness, derail your life, and ruin your irresistibility and ability to love and be loved. So how to solve the excess of fear?

The solution to fear comes from three things: 1.

Consciously choosing to be happy by changing the conversation inside your head, and

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Loving yourself unapologetically, fiercely, loyally, and neverendingly, and

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Choosing to live in THIS moment right now.

Following these three simple steps will skyrocket your happiness immediately and profoundly, infuse you with a massive surge of pure energy, kick fear and insecurity in the teeth, and supercharge your powers of attracting and keeping an incredible man. And you can reap these juicy benefits starting right now. Here’s how.

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Step One: Choose To Be Happy. Right Now. “People who have found happiness within themselves are usually the most desirable to members of the opposite sex and become like magnets because they are at peace and generate a sense of joy.” – David D. Burns, ‘Feeling Good’

Okay, it’s time to get blunt: If you ever want to experience an astonishing relationship with an incredible man who is worthy of your love, then here’s the deal: You must CHOOSE to be happy. You MUST. This does NOT mean you aren’t allowed to be unhappy, experience pain, or go through difficulty in your life. Nor does it mean you have to pretend not to be upset, deny your emotions, or act like some kind of robot. Life is real, and it can hurt. People can be cruel. Rejection can be heart-shattering. Catastrophic loss exists for all of us. That’s the truth. But here’s the thing: What if it’s not what HAPPENS to you that decides how you feel, but how you THINK about what happens to you?

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What if you could erase sadness, panic, inertia, depression, self-doubt, stress, critical thoughts and overwhelm (all things that totally sap your irresistibility to men) in ten seconds or less? Because you can. All you have to do is interrupt the conversation happening in your head (what cognitive therapists call ‘automatic thinking’) and choose new words to speak to yourself: words that support your REALITY as the powerful, intelligent, empowered and irresistible woman you are. You can CREATE happiness for yourself right now (thereby massively improving the quality of your life and skyrocketing your irresistibility and attractiveness to men everywhere) simply by changing the thoughts in your head. Many women operate under the assumption or belief or hope that happiness will show up for them when they have … the right apartment. Or the right job. Or the right man. Or more money. Or when they lose weight. Or, or, or. This isn’t how it works. Happiness is not your right, it is not owed to any of us, and if you feel unhappy or unfulfilled about something that’s happening in your life, you must own it and then CHOOSE how you react to it.

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Here’s something I use in my life when I’m feeling stressed out and my instinct is to cave in to feelings of stress, overwhelm, grief, and anxiety: I ask myself, ‘Am I okay in this moment right now?’ If my feet are on the ground, my heart is beating in my chest, there is air going in and out of my lungs, and I have the mental capacity to understand and answer the question … … then the answer is yes, I am okay in this moment right now, and everything else is an illusion. (Note that I didn’t invent this concept; I actually got it from a friend of mine, who’s a professional psychotherapist. However, I do find it tremendously useful in my everyday life, as will you.) Simply checking in with your actual state – the fact that you are here, breathing, alive, and actually just fine – goes a long way towards halting the spinning thoughts and negative thought-bog we can all get sucked into from time to time. Always Remember This: Painful emotions aren’t caused by what’s happening to you. They are caused by the pain-producing THOUGHTS that are flooding your head (often without you consciously noticing them.) The truth is that underneath all the fear, insecurity, worries and self-doubt, you are magnificent, you are invincible, and you are surrounded by more love than you could ever imagine, right now. Asking yourself this simple question – ‘Am I okay, right now?’ - is your first step towards removing the mental filters that are keeping you blind to the love you want, and your biggest key to opening up your awareness to your own irresistibility, beauty, power and HAPPINESS starting this second.

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VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: Many women also unconsciously make men responsible for their happiness. For instance, most women become irritated, resentful, harsh and bitter when they feel like the man they’re dating or in love with doesn’t show his love in the exact way they want him to. This can take a variety of forms depending on the stage of the relationship. In the early attraction stages, it might look like checking out other women in front of you, or being late to pick you up, or not responding to text messages quickly enough for your liking … the list goes on and on. In the later stages of commitment and exclusivity, it might look like not showing his affection as much as you’d like, or not making as much time for you in his life as you’d hoped, or being messy and sloppy around the house, or … you get the idea. This only becomes harmful and toxic to YOUR happiness, YOUR life and YOUR ability to live a big life unencumbered by mental bs and toxic thought patterns when you go beyond noticing what’s happening, to making him responsible for your thoughts (and thus, feelings) in response. “My life would be so much better if he would only tell me he loves me more often!” “My life would be perfect if I could just get him to want me.” “I’m convinced he doesn’t love me. It’s ruining my life.” Again, this is merely an incorrect mental construct designed to distract you from the amazing realization that you are in complete control of your own happiness at all times – starting RIGHT NOW.

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Always Remember This: If you want to change your life for the better (and skyrocket how irresistible men find you), then change your thoughts.

Relationships can be wonderful and being with the right man can be a source of tremendous joy and bliss; yet no man is ever responsible for your happiness, and he doesn’t actually owe it to you to try and ‘make’ you happy either. You are in charge of your own life. You are the person who either chooses to create your own happiness and fulfillment – or not. It is a choice you make, and if you want to be a truly irresistible woman, it’s a choice you make over and over every single day. 4 Fast Ways To Get More Happy NOW

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Become hyper-aware of the conversation in your head. Self-awareness facilitates transformation without effort – many times, simply noticing the way you talk to yourself is huge. We’ll get more deeply into the art of self-compassion in the next section of this chapter, but for now, start paying CLOSE ATTENTION to how you talk to yourself.

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Extend your awareness outwards: are you paying attention to the things in your life that bring you joy? (For instance, are your eyes able to see the sky and the faces of loved ones and friends? Can your ears hear the voices of those around you? Can you feel sunshine on your skin?)

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Are you choosing to prioritize the things in your life that bring you joy? Are

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you taking ownership of your own experience in life and choosing to fill your time on this planet with as many things that bring you joy as possible? 4.

Begin the Daily Gratitude Ritual. (This one is huge.)

Early on in my professional life, I was lucky enough to work for a guy who believed wholeheartedly in the transformative power of gratitude – and it changed my life for the better almost immediately. Under his directive, our small office would have a daily meeting to catch up on our projects and work, and he insisted that we begin every meeting with telling everyone else around the table 3 things we were personally grateful for. These things could be big or small, and they were different for everyone. “I’m grateful for food on the table, a roof over our heads, and money in the bank.” “I’m grateful for vanilla cupcakes, my red Converse sneakers, and rock and roll.” “I’m grateful for the amazing date I went on last night, my dog, and my health.” And so on. Now here’s the funny thing: simply noticing and listing three short things every day that we were grateful for had MASSIVE and almost instantaneous knock-on effects for all of us – in ALL areas of our lives. As I got into the habit of daily gratitude, I felt a rush of energy and a surge of aliveness right to my very heart. Doors began to open, new opportunities began to show up, and I began to experience happiness and success like never before. I will forever be grateful to that incredible man for introducing me to the life-changing power of the daily gratitude ritual – and now I’d like to pass it on to you. Here’s how you’ll do it:

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Every night before you go to sleep, I want you to list 3 things you’re grateful for in your life. Note that these things don’t have to be huge, life-changing gifts – you can keep it as simple as you like. (For instance, when one friend of mine is really struggling in her life, she looks for the most basic things to be grateful for: the sun shining, air moving in and out of her lungs, food on the table, etc.) You will be amazed at how, once you start taking the time to NOTICE what you already have to be grateful for in your life, more and more of what you want and love starts flowing into your awareness. Consciously listing things every day you have to be grateful for in your life instantly starts rewiring your brain and ‘relaxing’ the nerves responsible for feelings of stress and overwhelm. Instant Irresistibility Assignment: Tonight when you go to bed, I want you to start your daily gratitude practice. Here’s how you’ll do it: Get into a comfortable position, lying on your back or side. Close your eyes. And think of three things, big or small, that you’re truly grateful for in your life.

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Step Two: CHOOSE To Love Yourself. Fiercely. Right Now. Loving yourself - unapologetically, loyally, fiercely – is the key to unlocking your potential, your beauty, your attraction, and the dreams you’ve carried inside you since you were a tiny little girl. I know we’ve all heard it before, but it really is true: Loving yourself RIGHT NOW is one of the sexiest things you can ever do. Men are magnetized by happy women like iron filings to a magnet. And loving yourself makes you RADIATE happiness. Think of the last time you were in love: the surging euphoria, the happiness permeating every cell, the irresistible smile tugging at the corners of your mouth, the feeling of lightness and peace and bliss warming your muscles and body and blood from within. You were just a big ball of happy, weren’t you? And you probably noticed that other people were picking up on your vibration and higher frequency, too – you probably got more smiles, more ‘hellos’, more invitations, more opportunities, just MORE. That’s the power of loving yourself. And that’s the kind of love you’re going to learn to feel for yourself – as you are, right now. No-one can feel happy all the time, but my goal for you here is to elevate your state

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to the point where your vibrations are high, your energy is high, and you identify yourself as ‘a happy woman’ … … that even if your life is currently reflecting challenges, those challenges don’t change who you ARE on the inside. Here’s how.

You Decide, Right Now, To Become Fiercely Self-Compassionate. Understand that self-compassion is your greatest tool for loving yourself fiercely and becoming the best, most insanely lovable and magnetically attractive version of yourself. Awhile back, I started to pay attention to the types of thoughts I was having. Up until this point, I hadn’t really gotten that invested in identifying the meaning behind the negative feelings I was having – I would experience anxiety about my work, or upset about my appearance, or sadness about my lovelife, but I wouldn’t actually pay attention to the words in my head that were driving those feelings. And when I started paying attention? I was shocked. Aghast. ‘Holy crap,’ I thought. ‘Did I really just say that to myself??’ The words, that I’d never bothered to identify before but that were there in my head all along, were so bad I almost don’t want to write them down here. They were words like, ‘You’ll never be good enough at what you do.’ ‘If you really try, you’ll probably fail. You’ll be embarrassed and ashamed and it’s

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probably better if you just half-ass this, so when it goes wrong, you’ll know that at least you weren’t really trying.’ ‘Nobody cares about what you have to say.’ ‘People think you’re boring when you talk about yourself.’ ‘You’re looking older every day.’ And so on, and so on. I’ve always been my own harshest critic, but up until this point in my life, I’d always kind of thought that was a GOOD thing. You know, a point of pride. ‘I’m a perfectionist,’ I’d think proudly, ‘because I really care about doing things WELL.’ But when I took the time to really look at how I was operating inside my own head, the truth struck me like a punch in the gut (in a good way): I was paralyzing myself with doubt and self-criticism. I realized that I could never be my BEST self, live a life on purpose and inspire others to do the same, if I was constantly tearing myself down. Beating yourself up for tiny failures and even HUGE failures, expecting nothing but the best, and believing that ‘good enough sucks’ is a false path. It leaves you feeling afraid, picked-on, fearful, and as if you’re never good enough. It holds you back from taking risks and expanding as a person and learning new things and exploring your glorious potential – the one that lies JUST outside of your comfort zone.

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You must choose to have compassion for yourself. Recently, I read a book called ‘You Are A Badass’, by life coach Jen Sincero (one I highly recommend, by the way.) One of the tips she gave that really resonated with me on a deep level was that, instead of saying things to yourself like ‘You’re screwing it all up! You’re worthless! You can’t do this right! You’re going to fail! You’re a horrible human being!’ and so on … Just think of yourself as a little bunny, working through your issues. This made me smile – and it really works. There is no black and white. You don’t have to ‘measure up’. You are lovely and okay and a perfectly imperfect, flawed, and beautiful human being, just like the rest of us. You’re not a monster. There is nothing wrong with you. You’re just a little bunny, working through your issues. You must decide – right here and right now – that from this moment forward you will treat yourself like you are the most magnificent woman that you know. Treat yourself like your own best friend. Celebrate your magnificence. Don’t let anybody mess with your head, your dreams, or your heart – least of all yourself. Your life is here, and it’s happening RIGHT NOW. Beating up on yourself is the thief of your joy, your beauty, your aliveness, your potential, and your inherent irresistibility. Compassion for yourself looks like forgiving yourself for everything – yes, everything – while still craving to learn and do better next time, It looks like being present in your life, being fully engaged with going after your

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dreams, with feeling the fear and doing it anyway. It looks like loving yourself as if there’s a gun to your head that will go off if you don’t LOVE THE CRAP out of who you are: the glorious, powerful, gorgeous, strong, incredible, flawed woman you are. You are human. You’re going to make mistakes. You will ALWAYS make mistakes. So will I. So will everyone. And you know what? That’s just fine. You are still magnificent. You are enough and you are loved right now, just as you are.

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Step Three: Choose To Live In THIS Moment. Right Now. Psst – the secret to real happiness and real love is sourced in THIS moment. The one that’s happening right now. Every time you worry, you’re living in the future. Every time you regret, you’re living in the past. But what if you could bring your awareness to THIS moment and just … be? Being present gets you out of your head and into your LIFE – connecting you to the universal source of abundance, which raises your energetic frequency and vibration, which attracts things, experiences, and people of like frequency to you. Think of it this way: every time you’re ‘in your head’, you’re not really able to connect with whoever and whatever is in front of you right now. You’re missing out. You’re distracting yourself. You’re living in your head, instead of in the world. And on a pragmatic level, you’re coming across as distracted, tense, fidgety, stressed – not exactly ‘attractive’! So the question is, how do you bring yourself back to the present? Well, we all have an amazing teacher who can bring us back to the now any time we choose. This teacher is always with us – in fact, there’s no escaping it!

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Can you guess what it is? It’s your very own body.

Your Own Body Is Your Greatest Guide To The Present Moment Have you ever noticed that when your body has needs, they can’t be denied? When you’re hungry, your body doesn’t wait until it’s convenient to let you know. When you’re tired, your eyes are eventually going to shut whether you want them to or not. And when you’re thirsty, water becomes the only thing on your mind until you can pour enough of it down your throat to quench your thirst – whether or not it’s a ‘good time’ for a drink or not. Your body doesn’t worry about how its actions and needs will affect others, or the future, or how its actions in the past affect you now. Your body exists NOW. Which makes it an excellent teacher whenever you need a gentle reminder to return to the present moment – because your body is always with you : ) Here’s how you do it: Bring yourself out of your head (which loves to dive into the future or the past via worries or regrets) and into your body by focusing on how your body feels. Personally, every time I’m starting to feel a bit frenzied and caught up in the whirl inside my head (‘kids! Job! Money! Laundry! Dinner! Exercise! Am I looking older today?? My hair needs redoing … baby shower this weekend, gotta get a present … oh no, parking ticket! Gotta make lunch! Kids! Job! Money!’ etc) …

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… I like to use the Irresistibility Assignment you’ll find below. It’s simple, portable, powerful, and can be done anywhere. And best of all? It’s the closest thing to a panacea for bringing you back to the boundless energy and absolute peace of this moment right now. Instant Irresistibility Assignment: Take a moment right now to go within and let your body bring you back to the now, by bringing your awareness to the tiny joyful miracles of simply engaging in the physical experience of being alive. Feel the air moving over your skin, the oxygen rushing in and out of your lungs, the blood moving in your veins. Gently wiggle your fingers and then your toes, feeling the infinitesimal muscles and tendons contracting and flexing. Picture your heart beating, the flush of oxygen-rich blood from your lungs outward, the muscular contractions How does it feel to be in this body right now?

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Conclusion: What To Do Next I hope that you’ve enjoyed this special report, and that it’s given you some things to think about. What you’ve learned here was just a teensy taste of what I teach in my relationship program, Make Him A Monogamy Junkie. If you’re ready to dissolve your deepest inner barriers to love and truly experience the life and relationship you’ve always dreamed of (one full of happiness, unconditional acceptance, and a fulfilling partnership that doesn’t require you to compromise or ‘settle’ in any way, and that actually WORKS), you won’t want to miss it. I have so much more to share with you, so I urge you to join me, here! http://www.monogamyj.com I’ll see you there! With so much love, Gloria Lee

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